Don’t be an ANGRY-BIRD in real life.........
Dear readers, this post is about the angry birds, a game which is interfering in our social and personal lives. Today angry birds have replaced themselves with the human beings. As in game, only the birds get hunted, in the life too human beings or the angered person gets hurt. That's why this post is fully dedicated to anger. We all know very well, what the anger is?????Some people say it emotional phenomenon while others take it as a mental issue. And the fact is... We've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Forms: - Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. It can be self abusing, Explosive, Avoidance, Sarcasm, Habitual irritation and much more. But the point to be noted here is......who will get affected by anger. The answer is very simple; it’s only the person who is angry. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
The damage: it is virtually impossible to feel empathy and anger simultaneously, so in the heat of the moment, you are more likely to say and do overly harsh things that you later regret.
Way to manage: - Most of the time anger is the reaction of some action. It’s the feeling that makes ones mouth faster than his mind. Here the problem is lack of understanding the things properly. At that time we only think how can a person do this to me, but we must think one more thing that what are we doing with our self. Why the hell we getting irritating, self abusive as it will harm only us, in spite of hurting to the person who has done something wrong. So the way can be thinking about me and my loving ones, in spite of that person. Some simple steps you can try:
• Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."
• Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." all is well. ‘Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
• Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
• Slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
• Listening music or reciting rhymes can also help.
Forgiveness As a tool: - It’s an easy to say task. Anybody can say ‘forgive him’’, but only a few people on this earth are really capable of doing that thing. Most of the time, silence of a person is considered as a weakness but the thing is, that silence is the real strength of that person. And being silent on others mistake is forgiveness. We can also say if I will be like that person, what will be the difference between two of us. And if there is no difference & I don’t have any right to say that person wrong. So be big hearted for others especially for yourself and try to be silent and calm on others mistakes. But yeah, must tell about it to your loving ones so that you feel relax.
Anger is must:-although people say don’t be angry, but it’s not right too. Because in some situations its must. But we should know how to be angry. When and why to be angry. Our anger should only be for betterment of one and all, in spite of hurting all. For example, if a child is getting obstinate, parents must be angry in order to convince the child to be well behaved but within the limits. So that the child gets only the point we want to make clear. So we must not teach ourselves not to be angry, we should teach how to be angry.
In last will just say, holding anger is like a poison which eats us from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us, but it’s a curved blade. & the harm we do, we do it to ourselves. So try to be calm, relax and understanding and don’t forget the best weapon to fight anger is only.............. Silence............
Forms: - Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. It can be self abusing, Explosive, Avoidance, Sarcasm, Habitual irritation and much more. But the point to be noted here is......who will get affected by anger. The answer is very simple; it’s only the person who is angry. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
The damage: it is virtually impossible to feel empathy and anger simultaneously, so in the heat of the moment, you are more likely to say and do overly harsh things that you later regret.
Way to manage: - Most of the time anger is the reaction of some action. It’s the feeling that makes ones mouth faster than his mind. Here the problem is lack of understanding the things properly. At that time we only think how can a person do this to me, but we must think one more thing that what are we doing with our self. Why the hell we getting irritating, self abusive as it will harm only us, in spite of hurting to the person who has done something wrong. So the way can be thinking about me and my loving ones, in spite of that person. Some simple steps you can try:
• Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."
• Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." all is well. ‘Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
• Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
• Slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
• Listening music or reciting rhymes can also help.
Forgiveness As a tool: - It’s an easy to say task. Anybody can say ‘forgive him’’, but only a few people on this earth are really capable of doing that thing. Most of the time, silence of a person is considered as a weakness but the thing is, that silence is the real strength of that person. And being silent on others mistake is forgiveness. We can also say if I will be like that person, what will be the difference between two of us. And if there is no difference & I don’t have any right to say that person wrong. So be big hearted for others especially for yourself and try to be silent and calm on others mistakes. But yeah, must tell about it to your loving ones so that you feel relax.
Anger is must:-although people say don’t be angry, but it’s not right too. Because in some situations its must. But we should know how to be angry. When and why to be angry. Our anger should only be for betterment of one and all, in spite of hurting all. For example, if a child is getting obstinate, parents must be angry in order to convince the child to be well behaved but within the limits. So that the child gets only the point we want to make clear. So we must not teach ourselves not to be angry, we should teach how to be angry.
In last will just say, holding anger is like a poison which eats us from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us, but it’s a curved blade. & the harm we do, we do it to ourselves. So try to be calm, relax and understanding and don’t forget the best weapon to fight anger is only.............. Silence............
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